While being released as asexual might not appear to be a problem to some – in the end, asexuality is framed round the not enough something on me personally– it had a huge impact.

While being released as asexual might not appear to be a problem to some – in the end, asexuality is framed round the not enough something on me personally– it had a huge impact.

Content Note the following contains mentions of intimate abuse

During the time, I became still within my first relationship with a person who had been emotionally, physically, and sexually abusive towards me personally by coercing me into making love using them and blaming my not enough curiosity about and enjoyment of sex entirely on me personally, and not from the harmful dynamics of your relationship. We quite vehemently reject the label of heterosexuality for myself, partially due to these scenarios, that might run into as petty, but assumed heterosexuality caused me significant amounts of pain for several years of my entire life, while I became struggling to place my hand on which precisely the issue had been.

Realising me to establish a newfound sense of bodily autonomy, but it also, and even more importantly, gave me peace of mind, almost a sense of tranquillity and the reassuring feeling that there is, in fact, nothing ‘wrong’ with me that I was asexual enabled. It gave me the language to state my attraction towards other people as well as the level to which I’m comfortable with real and/or sexual contact in a nuanced way.

By recognising that attraction may be experienced on multiple levels (intimate, platonic, visual, sexual, to mention just a few) and they don’t usually have to ‘match’, in addition to acknowledging how a person’s physiological sex drive, their enjoyment of sex, and their general mindset towards it (many people are sex-favourable although some are indifferent or averse to it) can operate independently of each other, i really believe that anyone, irrespective of any sexual orientation, could be in a position to express their desires or lack thereof with more confidence and a feeling of reassurance.

Asexuality into the Queer Scene [Anonymous]

Content Note the following contains mentions of sexual attack

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